Considering the Relationship to help that a young person engaged with a service demonstrates may be helped by thinking about the feelings stirred in the worker.

A sense that I am "pushing too hard" may be an indication that we are in the INTERVENTION PHASE and that this is a common perception that the young person has about "help" - (that it doesn't often feel like help, but more like a kind of persecution)... or it may indicate that the work is moving towards the ENDING PHASE, and what I am wrestling with is my OWN attachment to my client, with the risk that I may inadvertently demonstrate a lack of confidence in the capacities of the young person (that may mirror the kinds of attitudes that he or she has faced for many years.)